Our four youngest children, pictured above, have now been officially stigmatized by the Mormon Church as "other."
As I wrote about yesterday, the Church has issued a policy stating that children of "a parent living in a same-gender relationship" cannot be baptized, confirmed, ordained or recommended for a mission unless they are of legal age and specifically disavow their parent's "relationship." Not surprisingly, the policy does not refer to a "marriage," only a "relationship."
Hmmm. All four of these children have - because they live with their active LDS mother - been baptized and confirmed. Too late to exclude them from that. Aaron (2nd from right) has been ordained to the Aaronic priesthood (for teenage boys), but Levi has not. I can only assume that he will be prohibited from being ordained to the priesthood when he turns 12.
The girls do not have to worry about being ordained. They're girls. Only males hold the priesthood in the Mormon Church. But the stigma is now there: children "of a parent in a same-gender relationship."
Where does this policy leave these children? Overnight, they have gone from being children just like any others in their ward (except that their parents are divorced and their father is gay and is married to one of the most loving men on the planet) to being officially reclassified as "others." How will that make them feel?
How will it make Levi feel to know that he will not be allowed to be like the other boys his age? He doesn't enjoy church and doesn't go to Scouts ... but still: it is HIS choice how he feels about church and whether or not he likes or goes to Scouts. The choice of whether or not to be ordained (not that he'd have a choice) has now been presumably taken from him. For as long as he continues going to church, he will be an "other," a "second-class" boy, and the only way he will ever be able to change that is by renouncing Mark and I's marriage.
"But whoso shall offend one of these little ones which believe in me, it were better for him that a millstone were hanged about his neck, and that he were drowned in the depth of the sea."
~ Matthew 18:6